It’s hard to change who you’ve been all along. It’s hard to change what you’ve done. It’s hard to change when you are so caught up in something, good or bad. How can you be expected to change overnight? And when you do have a change of heart, and are able to change, does that really matter in the end? To you? Yes. To everyone else? Not when they hold it over your head for the rest of your life. The little bit of trust you damaged, the little bit of doubt you put in their hearts that yes, it is possible you can mess you, will stay there. Unforgiveness is a dangerous and powerful thing. And until that person is able to put the unforgiveness aside, stop holding your mistakes over your head, can you really move on from it yourself.
So next time someone makes a mistake, breaks your trust, hurts you, don’t let unforgiveness destroy you and the person who has messed up. You may have been wronged, but you’ve not the victim. When someone needs your forgiveness, let the past stay in the past. The worst feeling in the world is having someone so close to you not forgive you for messing up, even when you are so sorry.
It is easier to get over your mistakes, your addictions, your chains, when you have forgiveness and support. You drink, smoke, cut, take drugs, you do all the things you shouldn’t to make yourself feel better, to make things seem not so horrible. Sometimes you do these things for comfort when you can’t find it anywhere else. But when you put it out there on the table, show that this is your weakness, and you are punished for wanting help, these things start to look even better. And if you do get clean? Get better? How can you get over your pasts, your mistakes, when its constantly thrown back in your face. “May I go here?” “May I do this?” And the response is “No, because remember what you did last time?” “Because you’ll mess up.” “Because I don’t trust you.”
Next time you are faced with broken trust, unforgiveness, or hurt by someone you love, simply remember 1 Corinthians 13. I am not a highly religious person, or much of one at all most people would tell you, but this verse is so true, and many people forget it.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
So next time someone makes a mistake, breaks your trust, hurts you, don’t let unforgiveness destroy you and the person who has messed up. You may have been wronged, but you’ve not the victim. When someone needs your forgiveness, let the past stay in the past. The worst feeling in the world is having someone so close to you not forgive you for messing up, even when you are so sorry.
It is easier to get over your mistakes, your addictions, your chains, when you have forgiveness and support. You drink, smoke, cut, take drugs, you do all the things you shouldn’t to make yourself feel better, to make things seem not so horrible. Sometimes you do these things for comfort when you can’t find it anywhere else. But when you put it out there on the table, show that this is your weakness, and you are punished for wanting help, these things start to look even better. And if you do get clean? Get better? How can you get over your pasts, your mistakes, when its constantly thrown back in your face. “May I go here?” “May I do this?” And the response is “No, because remember what you did last time?” “Because you’ll mess up.” “Because I don’t trust you.”
Next time you are faced with broken trust, unforgiveness, or hurt by someone you love, simply remember 1 Corinthians 13. I am not a highly religious person, or much of one at all most people would tell you, but this verse is so true, and many people forget it.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Very nice first post :)
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